In the PICU

In the PICU. Henley is stable and in and out because of all the drugs. Even with Dilauded her pain is still at a "5". They did mess with her neck muscles quite a bit so that is to be expected. And for those of you who have been holding out hope, they did have to shave the back of her head this time

I am certain I have never seen so many teams of Doctors and Nurses all rounding on one patient. It's rather impressive how many people are constantly coming by to check on her. There is a critical care team, the neurosurgery team, the pain management team and possibly one other group. Each group of people seems to have about 4 people.  

Surgery is OVER in record time

Wow! I mean WOW. Dr. Greenfield just came out and said he is DONE! Like an hour earlier than expected!!

The best way to tell you what happened is to give you the response to the specific prayer requests we asked for yesterday. 

SPECIFIC PRAYER REQUEST:For all of our Prayer Warriors, here is what you can be praying for specifically.

1. Dr. Greenfield. Pray that he has the best nights sleep of his life. That he wakes up peaceful and has unbelievable clarity tomorrow. Pray that Henley's surgery is the best surgery he has ever performed and the results are PERFECT. Dr. Greenfield said that once he opened her up it was very clear what he needed to do in her specific situation. His exact words were "It was not ambiguous at all, there was no question what needed to happen here." Prayers for absolute clarity were answered. I specifically asked how he slept last night and he said he actually slept great. ;-) 

2. Pray that the LORD'S hands are performing the surgery in the place of his hands. I had a friend message me this this morning: "The Lord woke me up in the night and told me to pray for you.  He gave me a vision of himself hovering over Henley during her surgery.  He was a bright light of presence.  He also had a fully armed angel standing guard at the door of the operating room.  I know today and right at this moment he is with you all. I pray that you feel His presence overwhelming you as He sings his songs of peace and love over you.  We love you and are interceding in prayer." We have felt peace in this moment for sure. It's an unbelievable feeling. 

3. Pray that there are NO complications, NO Infection (meningitis is a big risk with this surgery), NO spinal fluid leaks, NO spinal fluid collection or any need for extra blood, and that the time she is under anesthesia is minimal. Dr. Greenfield said that when he got in there that he did not feel like he needed to remove the part of the brain that was hanging down because the tissue all looked healthy. He said that the arachnoid space was all very much intact and therefore she had almost no risk of a spinal fluid leak! There was no need for extra blood and she was only under anesthesia for about 3 hours as opposed to the 4-5 hours we were expecting. There were no complications and everything was very clear cut.  

4. Pray for her heart to be strong, her lungs to be clear, and her brain to function properly. She is healthy and stable. Praise the Lord. 

5. Pray that this surgery is THE LAST surgery she will ever have to have and that THIS surgery will alleviate the need for any future surgeries. (Because this is one of two potential problems she has regarding compression on her brainstem and we are addressing the most important of the two issues tomorrow) This is to be determined, but we will keep claiming that this is all that will need to be done. 

6. Pray for the nursing staff to be EXCEPTIONAL. For them to be sweet and caring, kind, compassionate and that they will go above and beyond to make sure this is a good experience for Henley. So far so good. We are about to head to the PICU and so we are about to really experience the nursing staff now. 

7. Finally, pray for PEACE for us, and for Henley. She is so nervous. She is worried about the pain she knows she is going to be in and we are anxious at the thought of not being able to do anything to make it better. It's unbelievably hard to know that you are willingly walking your child into a situation that is going to cause her a lot of pain. Even when you know it's the right thing to do and that it's the doorway to a much better life. It still doesn't make this any easier. We have had peace. LOTS of peace. God is so good and has surrounded us with exactly what we needed in this moment and on this day. Our good friends from Texas are here with us who have a daughter (Darby) who also has Chiari and sees Dr. Greenfield. They "just happen" to have an appointment tomorrow with him and so were scheduled to be here at the same time. God is in ALL the details!

THANK YOU FOR PRAYING. Keep praying! Now comes the REALLY hard part which is the pain she will be in and all of the IVs and uncomfortable-ness that comes with recovery. We will post more in a little bit after we see her and can get a handle on the situation. 

Love you all. 

Letting Go.

We were able to suit up and go into the O.R. with Henley. They gave her versed i.e. "Giggle juice" to help to make her relaxed before going back. Apparently that is not standard procedure around here, but we requested it because her emotional state is of HUGE importance to us. After all, we are the ones who will deal with the emotional aftermath in all of this and they will get to walk away. 

Going under anesthesia is terrifying for Henley. It is for most people to be honest. However, there is one memory that neither one of us can seem to shake and that is the memory she had when she came out of surgery the first time when she was two. Immediately upon waking Adam and I were right there with her. I leaned down to hug and kiss her and the first words out of her mouth were "I'm so sorry mommy." As if she had done something to deserve all of this. To deserve this pain. I have never been the same. 

We have spent years talking through this, trying to make it okay. It's not. I don't know that it ever can be okay. Those memories run deep and she remembers them even 5 years later. She remembers waking up crying and she remembers being sad. 

I can't even talk about it all without crying. 

Yes, I'm sure I need therapy....we probably all do. 

So, we were able to go into the O.R. and meet a few of the people who are with Henley this morning. We told them that there were thousands of people praying over them today. Henley was really silly thanks to the drugs. They began putting all of the monitors on her, stickers all over her chest etc. Henley started making comments about payback and putting stickers on all these guys when she was done! When it came to the mask and the anesthesia it was again....traumatic. You can see it in her eyes. You can see trauma happening. There are no words for this. I prayed over her and and begged the Lord one last time to stand in our place and keep her safe. We kissed her and were escorted out of the O.R. I lost it when I walked out of the room. The child life specialist was there with us and Dr. Greenfield followed us out of the O.R. He reassured us that she was going to be okay. 

There is nothing that makes this easier. Walking away and handing over the life of your child is excruciating. My only hope is knowing the I left the Lord in there with her and HE is watching over his baby.